Time is Short: What Are You Doing?

We are just over halfway through January and I have already known of 8 people who have passed away this year. Of those, I personally knew 3 of them. Each of these deaths have affected me or someone I know. The purpose of this post isn’t to talk about these deaths or the grief that each family is feeling. I certainly don’t want to discount that. Believe me, I know what it means to lose someone very close to me. Instead, I want to focus on the thoughts that have been floating around in my head in the wake of these events.

There is nothing like death to make you take a step back and examine your own life. This is especially true when someone close to you passes away, or they die at a rather young age. One thing that has been on my mind after the recent deaths of family and friends is this:

Time is short.

Really, when you think about it our time here on this earth is very short. Even if one lives to be 100, that 100 years in comparison to eternity is short. No one knows who long he/she has. That isn’t for us to decide. No doubt everyone wants to live as long as they can. We want as much time as possible with those we love and care about. I don’t know of a single person who longs for death to overtake them. Rather, they plan for the future with the expectation that they will be around for a while. The reality, however, is that we aren’t guaranteed tomorrow. That leads me to a question.

What are you doing?

I guess I should really say, “What am I doing?”. Hearing of others passing away has made me stop and wonder what I am doing with what God has given me. Am I investing in His kingdom, or am I living for myself? Do I love others the way Christ loved, or do I select those I want to love? Am I serving Him or man? God has given us a short time, so what are we doing with that time?

I’ve been thinking about my life in recent weeks. I’m no different from most who will read this. I want to live as long as I can to be with those I love. I’ll say that I know my future in Him is secure, so death doesn’t scare me. When He calls me home, I’ll be ready to go. But, I hope that isn’t soon. So, while I’m here and have breath, I need to be about Kingdom work. How can I serve Christ and others every day? Am I doing His work?

In the age of social media when someone dies there are many posts about them on various social networks. Some speak of how good that person was. Others tell how deeply saddened they are by the death. Still others post remembrances of good times. While reading these I can’t help but wonder what people would say about me. I would hope people would say I was a good guy who loved and cared for his kids. But, more than anything I want to be remembered in this way.

He was a man of faith who served his savior Jesus Christ daily!

I hope we all have lots more time to be with our loved ones. Remember, however, there is no guarantee of tomorrow and time is short. What are you doing?

New Year – Blank Pages

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Happy New Year!!

Today is January 1, 2014. It is the beginning of another year. For many that means resolutions…promises to make changes, usually. For most, those resolutions will soon be broken and forgotten. I don’t make any new year’s resolutions. I know I, like most, would fail to see them through. So instead, I look at the new year as a tablet of blank pages…a clean slate, if you will.

The beginning of a new year, to me, is a new beginning. Time to say goodbye to the past year…the heartache…the strife…the grief…the ______ (fill in the blank). I’ll confess 2013 wasn’t all I had hoped it would be. But, I won’t dwell on the past. I choose to look ahead to 2014 with optimism. The year lies before me (each of us) as blank pages. How will we fill those pages? Will they be filled with fear, anger, disappointment, depression? Or, will we choose to fill them with friends, happiness, fun, love, good times? I don’t know…yet. The year ahead is being written. Each of us has a blank page waiting to be filled with the story of our lives in 2014. It is another chapter in the book called Your Life.

As I said, I don’t make resolutions. I do try to set some goals for myself, and I’ve done that. Many are very personal, and I’m not ready to share those here in a public format. Maybe at some point, but not yet. I do, however, plan to share much via this blog. I wasn’t very motivated to write extensively in 2013, but I hope to change that in 2014. This is my outlet to share some of what I will write on my blank pages this year.

So here  we are. A new year and a book of blank pages lies before each of us. I invite you to begin writing this chapter of your life. I’ll share some of mine, and I hope you will comment and share some of yours. Let’s welcome 2014 with open arms and open minds and see where it takes us. I wish you blessings, peace, love and happiness and look forward to seeing the writing that will fill the blank pages.

Making Time

 

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Ever notice how people tend to say they never have enough time? Time is a valuable commodity. There are 24 hours in a day, yet we don’t seem to have enough time to do everything life demands.

Work…kids…social life…dating…etc.

What occupies your time?

I find it is often difficult to achieve a good balance of how much time I need to devote to everything that demands my time. I spend many hours running my kids to and from events, appointments, practices each week, then I don’t have the time to go to dinner with friends. Or, I make the time to go on a date and don’t get something else done. I go to lunch with a buddy and work piles up. Some days I find myself asking where the time went and wonder how I’ll get caught up on everything that wasn’t done.

Sometimes I just have to take a step back and look at the many demands on my schedule. I have to ask, “What is important?”. I’ve realized something…

If something (or someone) is important to you, then you MUST make time for that thing (or person). 

Let me explain. We spend so much time on activities or people who aren’t really important to us. Think about how much time you devote to pleasing people at work while you are neglecting your family. Or, maybe you devote time to a friend when your significant other needs that time and attention. We all do this…and each of us could list several things here. The point is this. We spend more time on things that aren’t important than we do on the most important things in life.

I’m not saying we should neglect work or friends or hobbies, but if there are more important things and people in our lives then the less important things should naturally receive less time. It’s all about what we choose to make time for. If it is important to us, we MUST make time for it.

If your kids are important…MAKE TIME FOR THEM!

If your faith is important…MAKE TIME TO SPEND WITH GOD!

If your significant other is important…MAKE TIME FOR THEM!

The list could go on, but I think you get the idea. We’re all busy, but that’s just an excuse. Stop making time for things that don’t matter, and begin making time for those that do. The decisions you make with your time could change your life…and the lives of those that matter to you.

Turning to God

 

Jesus tells us in Matthew 11:28,

Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Today in church we sang a song titled Come to Me

Come to me, I’m all you need. Come to me, I’m your everything. 

Christ followers know this. I grew up in a small Southern Baptist church where we read the King James Bible and sang from hymnals. I remember reading that Bible verse with the words “Come unto me“. We sang the old hymn by the same name. “Come unto me, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, hear me and be blessed”. (OK, how many of you have that one stuck in your head now?) My point is that this is common knowledge for Christians. We are to cast our burdens before the Lord. He invites us to lay the load at His feet and find rest. Yet we don’t. Why???

While thinking of this post I realized a couple of things. First it has been over 3 months since my last post. Second, I have not be heeding the advice of Christ. I think a big reason for the lack of content on this blog is due to the fact that I have struggled with some things and not have not laid them before the throne. Instead of running to Him, I’ve been pushing Him away and going at it on my own. (Just as a side note, I don’t recommend taking that path.)

The sermon this morning in church further reminded me of my need to run to God. One point in particular stuck out for me…so much so that I took a screen shot of it and posted it on social media.

Intention of God

 

I love this and so needed to hear it. God’s intention is that every detail in my life should push me back toward Him. Again, I know this, but knowing and doing are totally different things. The message and songs today hit me like a ton of bricks. Why am I getting nowhere in dealing with my struggles and issues? Because I’m dealing with them and not turning to God.

Sometimes it takes something like the right message or song at the right time to make you stop and think about things. I’m so thankful for God sending me the message I needed to hear, and I’m thankful for a church that delivers His Word week after week. I know what I need to do and will heed the words of today’s message and the words of Christ. Come to Me

The Power of a Simple Note

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Have you ever received something that completely caught you off guard and made your day? That’s what happened to me this week when I received this simple thank you note. It truly is very simplistic in nature…just a thank you for serving, but it really means a lot to me. People rarely take the time anymore to sit down and write out a note. In our digital age it is so much easier to just type out a quick email or text. For someone to take the time to actually write a note and mail it, well that’s something entirely different. To me it shows a level of personalization you just can’t get with an electronic message. It also arrived at a perfect time this week. I had some things going on in my life, and receiving this simple handwritten note helped me put things into perspective and brought a much-needed smile to my face.

With that I’ll say “thank you” to the author of this note. You know who you are, and I appreciate your kind words. I’ve thought for some time about the reasons I serve in different capacities at my church, and this simple note helped me see some of those reasons. I’ll share more about that in an upcoming post.

This note has challenged me to take the time to do the same for others. Who do I know that could use the encouraging power of a simple note? Perhaps it might be you. :)

God Uses Broken Things

 

We throw away broken things, but God don’t. God uses broken things.

The above film is my absolute favorite thus far featured on I Am Second. I first saw it a few weeks ago and shared it via Twitter and Facebook. Since then I have watched it many times and was inspired to write about it. David Ring’s testimony is extraordinary, and he is such an inspiration to others. Many of you know I have the privilege of working around many people with disabilities, and that has changed my whole perspective on those folks. Hearing Mr. Ring speak of others making fun of him hits home, and it hurts knowing how cruel some people can be. Ring is living proof that God does indeed use broken things.

There are so many things he says in the film that I could mention here. I’ll focus on a couple of my favorites. One is this:

I’m not OK, but that’s OK. God loves me just the way I am.

What a powerful statement! I think too many of us spend time trying to be something we are not. We try to be better, smarter, different. We’re not OK, so we try to mask that by being something we think others want us to be. The truth, however, is that we need to understand exactly what Ring said. We’re not OK, but that’s fine. God knows that, and He loves us as we are…in spite of our flaws, disabilities, sins, failures. It has taken a long, long time for me to realize that. I, like many, have felt at times that God doesn’t love me. How could He? But, He does…unconditionally!

Another line from Ring that I love is,

God saw a dead baby, and God brought that dead baby to life.

You can look at this statement a couple of different ways. The obvious is how Ring meant it. He was dead for several minutes when he was born, and God brought him back to life because He had a purpose for his life. I think there is another application here. Think about salvation. God takes a sinner…someone spiritually dead…and gives them life through Jesus Christ. He sees a dead baby and brings it back to life. Let that sink in! Without the sacrifice Jesus made on our behalf, we are dead (the wages of sin is death). But His gift to us is life! Praise God!

Finally, David Ring ends by saying this…twice:

Everybody wants to be loved

There is no human being on the face of the planet who could argue with this statement. We all want to be loved. We long for the love of others. But, too often I think we feel the opposite. There is so much hate and violence in the world in which we live. Racism, sexism, discrimination…you name it. But, there is good news! While we may not feel the love from others, there is One who loves like no other.

For God loved the world in this way: He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16

Everybody wants to be loved, and God loves everybody! His Word tells us so. When we understand that, and realize God wants us as we are…scarred, battered, broken...we will feel that love. Will it always be easy? No, but He has promised to be with us to the end of the age. When all else fails, God’s love never will.

Have you experienced His love? If not, what are you waiting for? He offers it freely to all who will accept it. Will you accept it and allow Him to use you for something greater? Remember…

We throw away broken things, but God don’t. God uses broken things.

One Year Later

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February 7, 2012 – Two major events occurred in my life.

  1. I turned 40 years old
  2. I sat in a courtroom finalizing a divorce I didn’t ask for or want

Here we are one year later. This past Thursday marked my 41st birthday and the one year anniversary of the divorce. As I reflected on the events of the past year I began asking myself some questions about my life now compared to then. I wanted to share just a few thoughts with my readers about this.

When Thursday rolled around this year my first thoughts weren’t of my birthday. My mind went back in time to the previous year. I can vividly remember sitting before the judge and signing the documents. As I said, I didn’t ask for it and it wasn’t what I wanted. But, as I look back on the year since that day, I can tell you now with great confidence that it turned out to be a good thing. Knowing things I know now, I can see it was for the best. I won’t sir here and say I’m glad it happened, but I will say I am a better person because of it. God has opened my eyes to so much over the past year, and I’m so thankful for that.

I can’t go back and change the past…wouldn’t want to. I’m learning daily to live without regrets. What’s done is done. Now, look forward to a hopeful future. That has become a mantra for me to live by. I view each day as a gift from God. Some days are better than others, but God has put some amazing people in my life over the past year to help me through the rough days. Thursday I realized how important so many of those people are to me. I have family and friends who have been beside me every step of the way. (You know who you are.) With these people loving me and walking with me, I’ve been able to really let go of some old hurts and emotions that were doing nothing but bringing me down. Thank God for these people!

This time last year I was looking for ways to heal the hurt. Now I no longer do that. God has healed the hurt. He has led me to a better place in my life. My relationship with my kids is better than ever! We have really bonded over the past year, and for that I am truly thankful. I’m also closer to my sister as a result of all I’ve been through. And, God continues to put friends in my life at just the right times to keep me focused on the important stuff and not dwell on the past. I am so very blessed!

The biggest question that came to mind this week was this:

Am I happier now than I was last year?

The answer to that is…yes! Do I still feel some hurt and disappointment from the divorce? Absolutely! I would be lying if I said no. But, overall I am a much happier person. As I said, God has opened my eyes to so much. Knowing the things I now know…well, let me just say I can’t help but be happier. Every day I can see how He is shaping my life. I can look back over the trials of the past year and see when He carried me through. When I vividly remember very dark, difficult days, I can remember with equal clarity the peace He gave. God has led to me to a better, happier place in life. I have no doubt that I am exactly where He wants me to be.

To those who read this and know you are one I mentioned above…THANK YOU!! Each one of you has touched my life in a very special way. Some of you may not even realize it. You may have prayed for me, sat across from me & listened, or just did something as simple as speaking a kind word. My friends and family are great, and I love you all!!

Live Second: Birth

Please watch the video then read on.

When I first watched this video a few days ago I had several things to say. I prepared so much to write in a blog post, but somehow it just didn’t seem right. So, I scrapped it all and started over. I can’t say much. Mr. Munroe said it all. My favorite line is this.

A substitution of blood, on my behalf, so that I could live again.

That is a powerful statement. Can you imagine what it must feel like to receive such a gift? To be born again?

I don’t know the feeling of physically receiving this life-giving blood, but I do know what it feels like to receive spiritual life-giving blood. Jesus Christ did that for me, and for you. He was that substitution of blood, on our behalf, so that we might live. How amazing is that? Even though we may not go through a bone marrow transplant and receive someone’s blood in our bodies, we can know what its like to experience rebirth. Praise God for the sacrifice…the substitution of blood on my behalf!

My New Ink

This past Tuesday I added some new ink to my arm. I already had one tattoo and had wanted another for a while. I just wasn’t sure what I wanted. I decided on something about a month ago and scheduled the appointment. Below is the result.

New Tat

I know by posting this that there will be some who judge me because of the mere idea of a tattoo. So, go ahead & judge if you will. I say to each their own. I’ve learned not to put too much stock in some of the things people think and say about them.

The people who have already seen this like it and have a common question. They want to know the significance. Not all ink has personal meaning, but this ink does.

The music is for me. I love music…performing it, listening to it, singing it (although that’s best performed in the shower or car :) ). Those who know me well know I have a passion for music. So, when I decided on this tattoo I knew I wanted to incorporate music.

The flower, a tulip if you couldn’t tell, is for my mother. She passed away 5 years ago this past December 31, and I still miss her. I’ve missed having her around during all the turmoil in my life over the past few years. A little while back I came across a photo of some tulips and thought of her and the idea to use a tulip as the focal point of my new ink. You see, when I was growing up she always had tulips growing in the yard. I remember them well…reds, yellows, purples,…so many colors. The ones I remember best are the hybrid tulips. I was always fond of the red & yellow ones. The tulip was her favorite flower, so I decided to use it as a permanent tribute to her.

I know people have different feelings about and opinions of tattoos, and I respect that. You may think it is crazy to get them, or you may love them. I think it is a personal preference that each person is entitled to. I got my first one in 2010 and it took almost 3 years for number 2. I never thought I would have one, but now that I do I can honestly say I’m very happy with my decisions to be inked. This post wasn’t something I had to share, but it was one I wanted to share. I want people to know about me…whether you like those things or not…and my ink is part of who I am.

Leaving a Legacy

I love the commercial above! The first time I saw it I laughed out loud, and I stop what I’m doing and watch when I see it. It certainly is humorous and memorable. Setting humor aside I began thinking about what the commercial says.

Pass down something he will be grateful for.

That line made me think about what I’m passing to my kids. What kind of legacy will I leave? Of course that is much deeper than a car, or the ability to throw a ball. When you consider the tremendous responsibility of raising kids you don’t always think about the legacy you’ll leave. But that is very important. So, I’ve asked myself what I’m passing along to them.

I won’t claim to be the world’s greatest dad. I try my best, but I fall short when it comes to getting fatherhood right all the time. I teach my girls right from wrong, help them with learning skills, and support their interests. I’ve passed along to them a love for music, my weird sense of humor (not sure if that’s good), and some quirky personality traits. That’s all well and good, but my hope is that I’ll leave something more lasting.

I try as best I can to set a good example of being a Christ follower to my kids. Again, I fall short, but I make sure they see my dedication to my faith, even when it isn’t good. I think they need to see that being a Christ follower doesn’t make you good or make you always do the right things. I’m very intentional that they see the work I do (all volunteer) for my church. I don’t do it for show…not at all. I enjoy serving and it is my way to give back. I want my kids to see and understand that “faith without works is useless” (James 2:20).

So, what am I passing on to my kids? I hope I am leaving a legacy of being a faithful follower of Jesus Christ. My goal is that they will see the passion I have for the acts of service and want to do the same. As a Christian parent, I think the best things you can pass down to your kids is the understanding of the importance of being a sold-out Christ follower and the service that goes along with it.

How am I doing??? You’ll have to ask my kids. :)